Consider Sibling Rivalry at the time of pregnancy

At the time of pregnancy, parents should consider that bringing a newborn baby home for the first time is a challenge for any parent- even more so if you already have an older child who may be confused, anxious or horrified at having to share your love and attention with someone else.

Parents often expect sibling rivalry to occur shortly after the baby's arrival. In fact, it is more likely to occur when the baby starts to become mobile. The jealousy begins when the older child sees the new baby sitting in the highchair that once theirs, wearing their old clothes or playing their old toys. Perhaps more worrying for the parents is when the older child shows outright resentment and tried to hurt the baby, usually when they think no one is watching. Your anxiety for your baby's safety is understandable, and unfortunately it only increases the pressure you're already facing. But however badly your child may react to the baby's arrival-and remember that plenty of children take it in their stride- there are ways to help him or her cope with their feelings of jealousy and hurt, and thereby reduce the stress at home.

During your pregnancy, talk to your child positively about the new baby and involve then in the preparations. Take your child to the doctor when you go for checkups, shop for baby things together and let them help set up the nursery.